通过10个心理学小窍门让一个女孩喜欢你
老衲有事说2020-06-14 14:08
通过10个心理学小窍门让一个女孩喜欢你
on 10 psychological ways to get a girlto like you
首先我想说 这些是符合道德而且没有控制欲的
First off, I want to say that these are ethical and aren’t manipulative
但是最后会使一个女生下意识地被吸引
but will in the end make a girl subconsciously be attracted to
并想待在你身边久一点
and want to be around you more
所以第一个秘诀是 你要有你自己的生活
So number one have your own life
这正像是处好一段关系的基础
this is like literally the foundation of starting a great relationship
并将给你一个让她喜欢你的起点
and will give you the starting base to make her like you
思考一下 就像这样
Think of it like this
假如有人想卖给你这本令人惊异的
if someone tries to sell you this amazing new book
附带各种能让你发财 让你开心的秘密生活法则的新书
with all kinds of secret life formulas that will make you rich happy
然后你在三天内买了半箱书的销量世界领先
get a six pack in 3 days and become a new world leader in the marketing
而且书的包装看起来也很棒
and packaging of the book looks great
但接下来你打开读到最后
but then you open it and read it
却发现书上说的都是些人生苦短的话
and all it says is life is short
你不需要这些东西
You don’t need these things
买更多的书只为得到更好的建议
buy more books for better advice
当你想处理好一段关系或是让一个女孩喜欢上你时
when you’re trying to get a relationship or make a girl like you
而你却生活枯燥
and you have a boring life
这就是你正在做的事情
this is literally what you’re doing
想象着有令人惊异的生活而且做着很棒的事 你说
Imagine having amazing life and doing awesome things that you say
嗨 女孩 我真的喜欢有你陪伴
Hey girl, I really like having you around
想在你的身边逗留这便够了
you want to stick around and that’s all it takes
让自己的私生活有趣点
make your own personal life interesting
然后女孩们就会聚集
and girls will flock
第二个秘诀 培养一个有意思的兴趣或爱好
Tip number two, Having an interesting hobby or passion
这是另外一条超级有趣的秘诀
Here’s another super interesting tip
很难在网上其他地方找到
that is hard to find elsewhere on the internet
有一个爱好会让你发现更多趣味
literally having just one passion will make you see more interesting plus
而且它会帮你赢得更多尊重
and add to some respect
第一条就是 开始自己的生活
Tip number one, you’re starting your own life
你的兴趣可以是任何让你充满热情的事
your hobby can be anything that you’re passionate about
只要确定它是你真正热爱的而不是假的
just make sure it’s true passion and not faked
如果我说在业余时间
if I said I love chainsaws and carving chainsaw art
我爱链锯并雕刻链锯艺术
in my free time
但事实上在空闲的时候并没有做
but I actually didn’t
那女孩也就不会看到你的闪光点了
the sparkle wouldn’t be there and the girl won’t see it
当你确实对一些事情上心
when you are actuallypassionate about something
你的女孩肯定会留意到的
your girl will notice
一个男孩做某些事时展现出的激情
there’s something infinitely sexy about a guy
使得他很迷人如训练摩托运动
with an intense passion towards something it could be programming motorcycling
煮饭 画画 读书 弹奏一个乐器或其它合你口味的爱好
cooking drawing reading playing aninstrument and anything else that suits your fancy
只需投入时间
Just put in the time
而在此过程中创造出些东西是加分点
bonus point to be create something in the process
第三个窍门 讲究卫生
Tip number three, have great hygiene
第一步是迅速
okey, guys, number one tip to instantly
让一个女孩被好闻的气味吸引
make a girl attracted smell good
我不是说那种令你惊异的味道
I don’t even mean smell amazing
只是闻起来不错去洗个澡
you just have to smell decent go take a shower
全身打上两遍肥皂
or a body soap all over you twice
洗干净你的头发然后把身体擦干用好的除臭剂把干净的衣服
and shampoo your hair dry yourself off apply good deodorant
放在你的套装上
put clean clothes on in your set no need to douse yourself
用不着喷半加仑的Axe body喷雾
with half a gallon of Axe body spray
你只需要闻起来像样
You just have to smell presentable
你可以买一些古龙水喷一处 最多两处
you can tho by some cologne and spray one squirt two squirts max
我建议一处喷在手腕 一处喷在靠近领口的地方
I recommend one on your wrist and one near your neckline
这都会让你身上很好闻
this is all it takes the smell great
女孩子们总是会迷上好闻的家伙
and girls fall for great swelling guys all the time
第四个秘诀是 让女孩子为你做事
Tip number 4, ask her to do things for you
这肯定是一条秘密窍门且可能甚至
so this is definitely a secret tip and maybe
有点操控力但当然不是任何罪恶的或消极的事
even a bit manipulative but definitely not anything evil or negative
只是让她为你做些事情
just ask her to do something for you
这种心理作用被称为本杰明·富兰克林效应
there’s a psychological effect calledthe Benjamin Franklin effect
它是这样起作用的 你让一个女孩为你做些事情
that goes like this: you ask a girl to do something for you
她做了
she does it
而且最后她潜意识里还会多喜欢你一点
and in the end she subconsciously likes you just a bit more
你可能会问为什么
you might be asking why though
尽管当我们在为别人做事 但是我们大脑却认为我们为别人做事
well when we do stuff for people our brain thinks since we’re doing something
一定因为是喜欢他们
for them we must like them
而本杰明富兰克林使用这些技巧来对付对他的对手和政敌
now Benjamin Franklin uses techniques on his rivals and political opponents
以让他们更加喜欢
to get them to like more
这也被唤作一致性偏差
also there’s something called theconsistency bias
在一些人为你做了几次事情后
after someone has done something for you a couple of times
他们倾向于做的更多
they’re more likely to do more
因为他们不想看起来前后不一
just because they don’t want to look inconsistent
小贴士 请求别人帮你做一些事比如在上课时拿一支铅笔记笔记
Tip, ask for things like picking up a pencil for notes in class
给某人一张纸 甚至安排一些小的差事
giving someone a paper or even small errands
但不要做的太夸张 否则她会感到你在利用她
but don’t overdo it though where she’ll feel like you’re using her
第五个秘诀 让她大笑
Tip number five, make her laugh
这是一个很棒的窍门
This is a great tip
你可能认为自己幽默但是事实上每个人都可以变有趣
And you may think you’re funny but the truth is everyone can be funny
如果他们试的话就可以
if they try.
你必须要在足够多的场合练习
You have to put yourself in enough situations
习惯做一个讲冷笑话的投机分子
to get used to the opportunist of telling an unfunny joke
一直足够到你有自信可以在周围的人们面前讲很多笑话
enough that you have the confidence to tell more jokes around people
你说的越好 你就会让女孩越爱笑
the more you tell better you will get girls love laughing
你让她们笑的越多 你能看到她们的社会变化越大
and the more that you can make them laugh the higher up in their social change
也能证明你思维敏锐而且幽默风趣
you will seem, it’s proved there you are intellectually strong and humorous.
这是一种理想的未来伴侣应具有的品质
which is a desirable trait and future mate
这种特质也会给你机会
also this will give you the chance
看看她的目光在哪无论她笑不笑
to see where her eyes are going whatever she laughs
也可以看到她对你究竟感不感兴趣
to see if she’s interested inyou at all
第六和秘诀 成为她的朋友
Tip number six, be her friend
这是完全不一样的概念
there’s a big difference between being her friend
是成为她的朋友还是作为朋友区间
and being friend zone
我想注明这种差异已经被证实
Also I want to note it’s been proven
而且先做一个长达数月的朋友区间
and totally acceptable to be in the friend zone for months
然后更进一步
foe months at a time and then move in
开始约会这是完全可以接受的
and start dating , so go the extra mile
所以不妨再多做一点比如做一些让她开心的事
and do stuff that makes her smile
做一些别人不会做的事
do things that other guys wouldn’t do
就像在她的车上留小纸条
Stuffs like leave little notes in her car
用消息道早安
centre good morning text
或讨论一些难题并多支持她
talking through problems and sympathize with her
事实上通过这些 你几乎已经在和她约会了
in fact in doing these you’re practically half way already dating her
你只要和她说
you just have to tell her that
在你的计划中 想和她一起度过余生
you wanted for the rest of your life in your basically set right
第七个秘诀 打破接触障碍
Tip number seven, break the touch barrier
这是一个完美的潜意识心理的碰撞
here’s a good subconscious psychological hits
在很多情况下实施起来 效果都出奇地好
that works amazingly well
碰碰她的肩膀
in many situations touch her shoulder
向她要一些东西 然后从她手里拿走
ask her for something and grab it out of her hand
或编一些游戏 需要和她接触或她一起玩的那种
or make up some game that requires the touch and play with her
如石头剪刀布
like rock-paper-scissors come up with a cool
如果实在不行的话 不如提议只是简单握个手
handshake if you have to
主要就是让她知道你愿意
The idea is to make her know that
以非性的方式接触她
you’re willing to touch her in a non-sexual way
因为你在她身边时感到舒服
because you feel comfortable around her
而且希望得到好的回应
and to get a reaction
如果察觉她厌恶或害怕这种接触
if she seems disgusted or scared
就不要再碰她了
don’t touch her any more
第八个秘诀 告诉她你的秘密
Number eight, tell her secrets
关于你私事的一些真正的秘密
tell real secret about you something personal
不是许多人知道的秘密
that not very many people know
这将会打开信任的大门
this will open the door for trust
因为你告诉她越多关于你的事情
and as you tell her more things about you
她就越会注意到你信任她
she will notice that you trust her
而且反过来她也会更加信任你
and in turn she will trust you more
从心理学上讲 我们会最先喜欢和信任
psychologically we like and trust people
先相信我们的人
who trust us first
因为我们对陌生人天生谨慎 也不会相信他们
because we have a natural instinct to be wary of new people and not to trust them
所以当你证明了你信任她她就会开始以同样的方式回应
So when you prove that you trust her she will start to reciprocate in the same fashion
我建议告诉她一些 你可以说的秘密
And I recommend telling her secrets
比如那种可以让其他人知道的秘密
that you’d be okay with, if other people knew
以防她泄密
just in case she tell someone
但是要确保它们是本人的而且被认为是一个秘密
but make sure their personal and make sure they would be be considered a secret
加分项 如果有些事
Bonus points, if they’re things
稍微有点令人尴尬
that are slightly embarrassing
比如你有11个脚趾
something like you have 11 toes
或你正为特朗普投票这些秘密应该谨慎提及
or you’re voting for Trump should do fine
第九个秘诀 给她你全部的注意力
Tip number nine, give her all of your attention in a world
你的注意力可以在任何地方
where your attention can go anywhere
但是它却是你可以给一个女孩最珍贵的东西
It’s one of the most valuable things you can give a girl
如果你想她明白
if you want her
你不只是关注她几分钟而已
pay attention to her and not just for a couple minutes
就要学会在她和你说话时看着她的眼睛
look her in the eyes when she’s talking to you
并在心里全部记下她正在说的话
and make mental note of all the up she’s talking about
如果你能在之后的对话中提到这些
if you can mention it in later conversations
她就会感受到你的不同之处并且开始享受你的存在
so feel special and start to enjoy your presence
这建议对谁都有效
this works with anyone
最后一个秘诀 是提高你的自信
the last tip is to beef up your confidence game
我接下来会制作一个视频这个视频会介绍一些另人惊奇的秘诀
I’ll be making a video soon on some amazing secret tips that you can do each day
你可以每天都做的提高自信的游戏
to boost your confidence game
这涉及到坚持自我意识
this is a lot to do with being self-aware
以及明白什么使你尴尬不安
and knowing what make you awkward and insecure
然后全力以赴提高自己 以成为
ans work on yourself and improving this to become
更使人稳当自信的存在
more secure and confident who you are asa person
这是我可以给你的最好建议
the best general advice I can give you
去变得更自信和赢取女孩芳心需要有规律的锻炼
to become more confident and make a girl like you is to work out regularly
如果你在上初中或高中
If you’re in middle school or high school
我建议一周三天 锻炼手臂 腿 核心功能或肺部力量
I suggest three days a week arms legs and core / cardio now near the end
在高中快结束和大学期间
of high school and during college
你可以提前安排或增加练习量
you can get into more advanced schedule and supplements
我将会去准备这样的材料和话题然后制作以后的视频
and I might go into that kind of stuff and topics and future videos
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Thanks for watching,guys
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